More and more I'm noticing moms plugged into iPods or cell phones while walking down the street with a child in tow. I see young children tucked safely in the back seat of the SUV sedated with movies or hand held devices. I'm worried.
Yes, these devices allow faster communication, quick and easy access to information, and maybe some peace and quiet on a road trip. But, what's the trade-off? What are we losing?
Significant studies have focused on the Failure to Launch generation - a generation of children raised with computers, television, game-boys, and other devices of modern technology. A generation unable to think linearly, complete assignments, or take personal responsibility for their actions. These are serious concerns for parents.
Yet, my heart is tugged in a different direction.
As a young mother, I remember pointing out flowers, bugs, trees, and animal tracks to my children as we walked. When they were toddlers, I lifted them up to touch the trees, or to inhale the fragrance of spring flowers. To keep them occupied on car rides as they got older, we sang songs, played license plate games, looked for certain cars, or animals, or played I Spy or spelling games.
The children asked questions and observed their world. Why do ants walk in a line? How can bugs climb up a wall without falling off? They danced and waved giant maple leaves and stuck flowers in my hair. I loved their enthusiasm and marveled at what they observed and how they processed information. These moments built a mutual sense of wonder - both of nature and of each other.
This is what I see families losing when they are plugged in and tuned out. The good news is this can change - by consciously un-plugging from devices and plugging into each other. Whether our children are young or old. Be aware of each other. Be alive to each other. Be fully present with each other. And, we will recapture and build the wonder and joy in our relationships.
